Premature ejaculation is not a disease. It’s defined by Masters and Johnson as a condition where a man ejaculates before his sexual partner, reaches orgasm in more than 50% of their sexual encounters. They further define more specifically that this is ejaculation within two minutes of penetration. So if you’re lasting three or four minutes, you are doing okay.
Despite what we see in all the porn movies, actual couples only have sexual intercourse for an average of 5.4 minutes. And that’s just the average that means that half of the people are having sexual intercourse for even a shorter period. Now this is just the actual intercourse of this, doesn’t include time spent in foreplay. But it is something to consider that most people are having sexual intercourse for a very long time at all.
Another thing you may don’t know is that according to survey 90% of women cannot achieve orgasm through sexual intercourse alone. So by that rationale, all men are pretty much premature ejaculators. Because whether you’re lasting for 30 minutes, 2 hours, or all freaking night long, is unlikely that she is going to have a climax through sexual intercourse alone, and you are going to be prematurely ejaculating.
If you want to please your female partner, you may need to worry less about your lower member and more about what you’re doing with your lips and hands. After all, space contains 55 different muscles, your wrists, and hands 40 different muscles, your tongue alone 16 different muscles, but functionally your penis doesn’t include any muscles. It just is there and let the rest of your body do all the work. And I’ll just come right out and say it – your hands and lips are far more expressive than a man’s lower member could ever be. So if you can learn to make sex more about foreplay and less about your climax, your partner will be a lot happier. And if you’re that worried about it then please your partner first and finish off with intercourse after.
Remember that men tend to fixate on the penis because that’s the primary focus of their pleasure during sex. But the penis is not the primary instrument of orgasm for the mass majority of women. And if you are not satisfied with that answer then there is a technique, which doesn’t involve any drugs and which can help men learn to control how long it takes them to ejaculate. It’s called the Squeeze method, and I’m not going to describe it for you but if you want more information than you can do a basic Google search to learn more.
Additionally, some doctors will prescribe a topical anesthetic cream for premature ejaculation, for example, Julian’s Rock Hard Cream, to numb the male member. Now, again, this is an awful label prescription, and while this is probably a little safer than taking a mind-altering drug, that’s going to affect your brain and central nervous system. I don’t recommend using any medicines that numb your ability to feel. Especially when the entire point of sex is feeling and sensation.
So, perhaps the safest alternative would be to wear a condom, which would somewhat numb the sensation. Or you can try doing long division thinking about your grandma right when you think you’re about to ejaculate prematurely.
A few other things to consider:
- The older the man gets, the longer it takes to climax;
- The less healthy the man is, the longer it takes to orgasm;
- Weight gain and obesity have also been linked to sexual dysfunction;
- The more sexually active a man is, the longer it takes to orgasm.
So if you are young and healthy, chances are your body is working just the way that it’s supposed to and getting a little older may take care of the problem for you.